REVIEW and more of Your Alpha My Mate by Rachel Ravenheart

Rachel Ravenheart and I are both fortunate to publish some of our books with CoolDudes Publishing, where they REALLY have a heart for their authors. I enjoy the warm and professional experience I have working with Louis J, Louis C, and Kimi every time! (Thanks, guys!)

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Today Rachel is visiting me with her exciting new release, Your Alpha My Mate, which is a shifter book aimed at a Young Adult Audience. I would recommend it for upper teen readers as well as for adults.

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BLURB:

Jamie is a shifter.
But he can’t shift. That’s what he wants his pack to think.
Truth is, Jamie is a white wolf. The biggest, best, strongest kind of wolf. He refuses to shift because his pack, and his parents, treat him as a misfit. An outcast. And when he takes matters into his own hands by fleeing to join the Lonestar Pack, his fate is already determined.

There will be sacrifice.

There will be war.

There will be death.
Above all, there will be love.
And love always wins.

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AND NOW…. MY REVIEW:

I was offered an opportunity to review Rachel Ravenheart’s upcoming release Your Alpha, My Mate, which is part one of the Lonestar Chronicles.

Your Alpha, My Mate is a YA shifter novel contrasting the pain of bullying and the loneliness endured while living in an abusive family situation with the bliss of renewal that comes from young love and bonding, written in the language of its YA audience. The story starts with 17-year-old Jamie, living in his home among the Cajun Red (wolf) Pack. He is considered to be an embarrassment and is a social outcast because the pack believes he cannot shift into a wolf. Jamie hides his ability to shift and his very rare wolf form from his original pack because of his inability to trust them. Although he keeps himself as emotionally separate as possible from his peers and family, they find excuses to beat and humiliate him. Only when Jamie leaves home and joins with the Lonestar Pack, is he able to finally find love and acceptance, as well as respect.

 

As a YA novel, Your Alpha, My Mate examines teen bullying in a realistic manner. Jamie nearly reaches a level of complete hopelessness, but is able to hang on, which is a great message for young readers. Another difficult subject Ravenheart explores is the isolation and fear Jamie experiences while living in an abusive family. The physical pain Jamie endures makes no sense to him, and like many youths he feels he has no choice but to run.

 

These painful experiences are contrasted with his joy of finding the one he is fated to be with as a lifelong mate. Through Jamie and Jackson, a teen reader can live a fantasy of pure love, where two individuals find one another against the odds, and treat each other with gentleness, support, and kindness. In Jackson’s family, with whom Jamie lives and bonds, he finds the healthy relationships for which he has been longing.

 

Your Alpha, My Mate also examines friendships, which are vital to the teen reader. The story highlights both positive and negative relationships. The negative aspects of friendship included are based in feelings of jealousy, ego, and desire for power. They are contrasted with positive friendships characterized by trust, dependability, and openness. There is also an example of a teen who is able to change and become a better person, which provides a hopeful message.

 

The love story of Jamie and Jackson carries you from high points to low, and then takes you there again and again. Your Alpha, My Mate is truly a page-turner that will appeal to a reader who enjoys intimate romantic scenes—both physical and emotional—as well as action and adventure.

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The Book’s VITAL STATS:

Title: Your Alpha My Mate

 

Genre: Fiction, Gay, Shifter, Romance, Werewolf, Revenge, Teen, Young Adult, Contemporary

Ebook 195 pages – Amazon. All Romance eBooks – $3.99

Print book 200 pages – Createspace – $11.99

Author: Rachel Ravenheart

Publisher: CoolDudes Publishing PTY LTD

Publication Date: 20 Nov, 2016

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Book Description:

Your Alpha, My Mate, is Rachel Ravenheart’s first shifter novel showcasing a cast of characters that could be taken directly from real life. All too often teenagers are ignored, or bullied by their peers, family members and fellow students because of what they can or cannot do. In the end, the outcome of such peer tactics can be disastrous for the teenager. However, in

Your Alpha, My Mate, the characters understand that in order to overcome adversity, they must plunge into the unknown to find their place in the world.

The dramatic elements should have particular appeal to young adults and teens who have fallen into a similar trap as the main character. However, the main character makes dramatic decisions to change the status quo and comes out trumps.

The book has two viewpoints; the author allows the reader to seek out the mind of each character as they communicate through their own special mind link.

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HOW ABOUT AN EXCERPT??

Taken from Chapter 5

I tried to find Connor and Lisa through the mind link, but there was too much going on. Instead, I found them in the entertainment room with Jackson playing Halo, and yelling and threatening each other.

“Hey guys! Having fun? You do realize it’s only a game right?” I laughed.

“Half the fun is the arguing back and forth with your opponent. It wouldn’t be as much fun otherwise,” Jackson said.

Connor sighed dramatically. “You know you’re just as bad when you’re playing, Jamie.”

Watching them as they continued their game, I was drawn to Jackson and how happy he seemed. Something in my gut was telling me that I should always make sure that he’s happy. As I pondered what was going on, someone else entered the room and all of us stared at the girl who stood in the doorway.

Lisa acknowledge her first. “Janet. Is there something we can help you with?”

Janet ignored Lisa and walked over to Jackson. “Hey Jackson. Would you like to spend some time alone with me before the BBQ tonight? Maybe we can go on a date?”

“Go away,” he replied with a heavy sigh. “I have never wanted to spend time alone with you, let alone a date. I know you’re lonely, but nothing is going to happen between us.”

He turned away from her to focus on the game.

As Janet walked away in a huff, I asked, “Are they always throwing themselves at you?”

“They only want to be the Alpha female. Sad thing is they keep hoping I won’t find my mate in time, so they’re always coming up to me like that and, to be honest, I can’t stand people who don’t respect other people’s feelings or wishes. What’s sad is Sarah is usually the only one doing this, not Janet.” He frowned, but perked up when he heard a loud triangle sound from outside.

That sound meant it was time for the BBQ. I didn’t know why, but I was nervous about being introduced to all these people since none of them had said or done anything to me since my arrival. A couple of them already knew me but still, it was daunting. I steeled myself because this BBQ was also a way to find the one with that alluring scent of pine and chocolate. The one that would complete me.

Now, with the prospect of finding out who my mate was, I could hear Josh and Mary’s voices in the back of my head saying my mate was going to reject me because I was such a disappointment.

Those voices dissipated as I walked out to the field where the BBQ was set up and a cheer rose from the pack. A couple of hours into the BBQ I had shaken hands with almost everyone and was rather disappointed because there was no electricity.

Until a hand touched my shoulder.

Tiny little shocks frizzled throughout my body.

I turned.

I finally knew, for the first time, to whom that bouquet of pine and chocolate belonged.

The shocks had stirred my wolf and made him leap with joy.

He kept his hand on my shoulder and I stared at him with bated breath.

Could it be possible?

Of course!

It only happened when he was around.

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Author Information

Blog: http://www.rachelravenheart.net

Rachel Ravenheart made a splash as a new author in the literary world with Uncommon Valor in 2015. She has had the desire to write junior high. She moved from a small town in Iowa in time to start high school in Louisiana.

Rachel lost sight of writing as she got bogged down with sports and school. Her dream of being a writer forgotten as she looked to the future to study Political Science with the hope of going to law school when she moved to Texas.

To make her way in the world she got wrapped up in the field of nursing when she got a job as a C.N.A. and soon even her dream of law school was forgotten. Strangely, thanks to an injury, she was at home recuperating and was bored when she remembered her love for writing. Never thinking she would ever get published she began.

Writers like Rob Colton, Mann Ramblings, and Alicia Nordwell inspired her creativity. She found GayAuthors.org and after some encouragement she decided to post her first story. With the enthusiasm of readers her confidence grew and she took the step to send off her first story to be published.

The rest, as they say, is history.

 

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THANK YOU, Rachel Ravenheart, for visiting my blog today, and showcasing your November 20th 2016 release Your Alpha My Mate on my blog today!!

❤ Mia

 

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It’s the Climb

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I’ve seen a lot of other authors hit them-low points in their careers when it seems like the harder you work and the BETTER you write, the less happens to move your message and the size of your readership–your career, itself–forward. And the more you have to WAIT for a YES or a NO, and for the sometimes dreaded, but always needed, reviews, allows for abundant time to question everything you’ve done so far in your writing journey, as well as what you plan(ned) to do tomorrow. This questioning leads to frustration, which is not helpful when you’re trying to keep those creative juices flowing. (Creative juices are kinda necessary to write awesome books.)

In my writing career, I’ve been up-and plenty of times. Sometimes I’ve even rocketed, twisting and flailing, into the sky.

But the twisting and flailing ride is kind of a two-way street. I will admit that right now isn’t the first time I’ve twisted and flailed, as I came crashing down. And at the moment, I’m at the bottom of the roller coaster ride, looking up and facing the climb.

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Wanting the climb.

GOOD NEWS: Yes, there’s always a silver lining. I’ve reached out to a few other writers and a beta reader (AND NOW to YOU) in search of the words that will inspire me. My wonderful friends who I’ve trusted with my struggle have been generous in their support and encouragement. I’ve been assured that my new books will be “winners” and I’ve been comforted in my frustration with all of the waiting that is required of an author (because sometimes all you can do is try like hell to be patient).

I’ve been told DON’T YOU DARE GIVE UP…

And I’ve been reminded that my goal is to take YOU on a journey that only I can guide.

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(me hiking in the woods)

So, yes, this journey as a writer, as are so many of our life journeys, is a trial. Or maybe it’s an election, of sorts. Or a trip to the doctor… or a visit to your kid’s teacher. Or a dance audition. Or basketball tryouts. Or an application to college or law school. You don’t know the final results until you actually take the trip. And then you have to sit and wait, before you muster the energy to work a little harder, and keep the trip progressing in the right direction.

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(one of my favorite hikes)

It’s interesting that my effort to bemoan the tribulations of my journey have resulted in focusing my mind on things like my family and good health and an upcoming election…

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I don’t plan to give up. I never have. But in the sharing of my experience with my personal roller coaster, I hope for an exchange. I would love to hear how you negotiate your roller coasters. And why you don’t get off the roller coaster, in favor of a carousel ride.

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After all, it’s all about the climb.

 

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I’d love to hear from you.

❤ Momma Mia

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(this looks just like my dog Jake from when I was a kid)

 

RELEASE DAY for IN A GILDED CAGE by Mia Kerick, my first LGBTQ FAIRY TALE RETELLING

Yes, it’s a Rapunzel story. And let me tell you, I did my research.

Here’s a taste of what I read in my effort to strip the Disney version of Tangled down to the most basic version of the tale. It comes from an article on Flavorwire called, “The Disturbing Origins of 10 Famous Fairy Tales” by Emily Temple.

Rapunzel, Rapunzel, let down your hair. Well, in the Grimm version, she does, a little too often, to a prince, and winds up pregnant, innocently remarking to her jailer witch that her clothes feel too tight. The witch, not to have any competition, chops off Rapunzel’s hair and magically transports her far away, where she lives as a beggar with no money, no home, and after a few months, two hungry mouths to feed. As for the prince, the witch lures him up and then pushes him from the window. Some thorn bushes break his fall, but also poke out his eyes. For all this extra bloodshed, however, there’s still a happy ending.

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I had a lot of fun creating a very dark parallel version of Rapunzel (the original fairy tales were quite disturbing) that takes place in the modern universe. And I submitted the story to 2 YA publishers, one after another. I was told that In A Gilded Cage was just too dark. As in, way too dark. “Readers like their modern fairy tale retellings light and fun.” Maybe I could lighten it up a bit, hmmm? But I liked it dark. And Evernight Publishing said something similar when I submitted it to their Teen imprint, but they added suggestion to the tune of, In A Gilded Cage is AN AWESOME STORY! Have Lucci and Prin grow up a bit… add some heat… and it would fit our Naughty Fairy Tales line PERFECTLY! And so Lucci and Prin grew up enough to be New Adult characters, got a lot more intimate, as did the original Rapunzel characters (wink, wink), and my DARK version of Rapunzel found a home.

I can’t write a story without a visual image of my characters. So here you go…

My image of Lucci… the male Rapunzel.

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And Prin… Lucci’s hero. His Prince Charming.

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And Mr. Gotham, Lucci’s creepy guardian, who is largely responsible for the darkness of In A Gilded Cage.

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In A Gilded Cage is on Amazon in Kindle Format, on All Romance Ebooks, and Evernight Publishing. See comments below for links.

ENJOY!!!

 

❤ Mia

 

 

The (messy) Story of Making a Self-Published Short Read… SOL Shit Outta Luck by Momma Mia Kerick

ONCE UPON A TIME…

I had some time on my hands. Every year, Mr. Mia goes on a LONG fishing trip to Chappaquiddick, an island off Martha’s Vineyard. It’s his favorite time of the year. Lots of men shuttle in and out of the house he rents, and they fish a lot at odd times of the day and night, dictated (I think) by the tides, they eat very well, and they take a few trips to Edgartown for dinners out.

 

At home, I have a different sort of vacation.

I become a literal recluse. Yes, I continue my motherly duties… but wifely duties? I put them on hold, with the exception of phone calls and text communication involving lots of “I miss you’s” and emojis.

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Where Mr. Mia eats well, my kids and I  (at home) eat badly. We order out A LOT!

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And… I write. And I write and I write, because there’s no one around to stop me.

This year on my “vacation from wifely duties” I wrote about 2/3 of a YA book that I suspect could be THE ONE. You know, the book that makes me the famous author I am in my mind, but no one on the outside realizes this. (I suspected that The Red Sheet was THE ONE. And Love Spell, and Clean, and Us Three… yet I continue to write in relative anonymity.) However, the drive is more to have my books READ by hoards of people than it is to be famous. Because when you’re famous you can never go out wearing no bra and without brushing your hair and/or teeth, as I sometimes like to do.

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I will let you all know if this YA book ended up being THE ONE. Or you’ll realize it when they make a movie out of it.

SOOO…. back to SOL Shit Outta Luck. I haven’t published since last February with The Art of Hero Worship. I have written books, but they as of yet have no home. I blame this partially on my Never-Trump obsession. I couldn’t concentrate on books when I was grasping the reality that Donald Trump could actually be our president one day. But I don’t want to go off on a political tangent…. In any case, on my “vacation from wifely duties”, I did a lot of walking. And while walking, I listened to a lot of acoustic pop hits. LOVE THEM!! When I listen to music, I get inspired.

 

And I wanted to publish something. I had an urge… a drive to put something out there. And I spent six days writing, editing, rewriting… and when it was finished, came the moment of truth. What am I gonna do with this thing? (THING being my 8,500 word manuscript)

Beck and Griffin’s story is cool. That is how I think of it. In SOL you will find a lot of bad attitude, a little bit of hipster, some David Beckham-ish-ness, mixed with hurt/comfort theme, blended with some tortured hero, and rounded off with some snarky humor.

And I had a what the hell? moment. Ever have one? They can cause you to act impulsively.

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I went on KDP- me, I guarantee I’m the most technically challenged non-nerd you have ever met. And I plugged everything in where the Kindle God asked for it, DESIGNED MY OWN FRIGGING BADASS COVER on Cover Creator, rewrote the story slightly to fit the picture I chose (LOL-but I did), and hit the button. PUBLISH.

I immediately started sweating. And I’m talking, sweating profusely. I had a HUGE OMG moment. Then I had three more. I wrote this Facebook Post and (THANK YOU, friends) got tons of support.

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Then I proceeded to re-publish SOL three more times in the next 12 hours because I found errors.

And SHIT OUTTA LUCK was born!!!!

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You are NOT shit outta luck, though. Because this guy was my mental image of Griffin, who Beck finds passed out on the crosswalk on his way home from work:

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And Beck… well, I had one guy in mind. A younger version of Posh Spice’s husband.

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That is the story of SHIT OUTTA LUCK, that was originally pegged to be named NOT-BLUE EYES but Cover Creator had no picture options I could make work, but, whatever.

If you are still with me here, head off to Amazon.com. pick up SOL Shit Outta Luck and meet the men behind this madness, Beck and Griffin.

 

❤ Momma Mia

 

 

COVER REVEAL of my very first FAIRY TALE RETELLING!!! “IN A GILDED CAGE” Mia Kerick’s LGBTQ Version of RAPUNZEL

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It has certainly been a while since I’ve announced a new book, but I’d like to post the COVER REVEAL of IN A GILDED CAGE by Mia Kerick, a modern retelling of the fairy tale Rapunzel. The publisher of this NEW ADULT LGBTQ CONTEMPORARY FAIRY TALE is Evernight Publishing. It will be in their Naughty Fairy Tales, as well as New Adult and Gay Romance. And what a cover! I’m thrilled!!

RELEASE DATE October 21, 2016

Here’s a little about In A Gilded Cage:

In the dark and modern fairy tale retelling, In A Gilded Cage, “Rapunzel” is indeed alluring, crowned with a mane of long, blond hair and blessed by an enchanting musical talent that draws a brave rescuer to a high tower hidden in the forest. However, this Rapunzel just so happens to be a young man named Lucci Grimley, sold as a child to the wealthy and childless Damien Gotham for the price of a fast car and a pile of cash. And Lucci’s heroic prince is actually William Prinzing (Prin), a handsome and ambitious young landscaper hired to care for the grounds at the lavish Tower Estate, who climbs an extension ladder, rather than a long golden braid, to gain access to Lucci’s second floor bedroom window. In a college town where success in soccer and superior grades make Prin “royalty” and where Lucci is schooled by elite private instructors—completely detaching him from the rest of the world—the young men address the prospect of liberating Lucci from his twisted guardian and gilded cage. Prin manages to penetrate the secrecy surrounding the young man in the tower, allowing friendship, and soon romance, to bloom. Together, they sneak off the mansion’s grounds to do the things that young men do—explore the town, attend parties, and learn the truth of friendship and intimacy. And as in the original tale of Rapunzel—the version we don’t read to our youngest children—the tower captive freely gives his love to the brave rescuer, which ultimately sends the fanatical Gotham into a frenzy of rage. He banishes Lucci and destroys Prin, dashing their hopes for the future. Will they find their way back together?

There will be more info about the book to come… but enjoy the awesome cover showing modern-day Rapunzel, Lucci Grimley, and his prince, William (Prin) Prinzing!! ❤

 

Trying to absorb the reality/ My life in 2016

This is my Facebook post from this morning. I will add to it below:

I have been writing, but I will admit to having been EXTREMELY DISTRACTED by the US political landscape over the past six months. The possibility of having Donald Trump as the president of the United States of America has horrified me to the extent that I’ve been spending a great deal of time absorbing the reality that this is happening–that Trump is being given serious consideration as a presidential candidate–and less on my friendships on Facebook and posting in my blog.
In my opinion, Trump disqualifies himself from being a legitimate contender for the presidency OVER and OVER again by spouting unforgivable comments and tweets that show no regard for human rights and no respect for human beings. They reveal his heart.
For example, Trump mocked a disabled reporter. This disgusting act of ridicule, IN ITSELF, makes the man INELIGIBLE to be the leader of the free world.
How can anyone stand behind a man who does this?

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As to the books I’ve been working on….

I’ve written three manuscripts. Two of them, an adult and YA, deal with the relationship between a transgender person and those who care about him/her. These books do not yet have a home, in terms of a publisher. I was inspired to write them by the anger I felt with regard to the “bathroom bills” enacted in North Carolina  that requires one to use the bathroom of the gender on one’s birth, as well as the high suicide rate for transgender teens.

I also wrote a fun one! I have always wanted to retell a fairy tale, and make the main characters LGBTQ. And I did it. Here is how I would start my blurb.

Rapunzel, Rapunzel, let down your hair, so I may climb the golden stair.

 Yeah…um, no.

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In His Gilded Cage, a YA LGBTQ modern fairy tale retelling, “Rapunzel” is indeed alluring, crowned with a mane of long blond hair and blessed by an enchanting musical talent that draws a brave rescuer to a high tower hidden in the forest. However, this Rapunzel just so happens to be a teenager named Lucci, sold as a young boy to the wealthy and childless Damien Gotham for the price of a fast car and a pile of cash. And Lucci’s heroic prince is actually Will Prinzing (Prin), an ambitious seventeen-year-old landscaper, hired to care for the grounds at the lavish Tower Estate where Lucci resides, who climbs to the top of an Extendo-ladder rather than a long golden braid to gain access to Lucci’s second floor bedroom window.

I based my “Rapunzel” character of Erik Andersson.

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His Gilded Cage was so much fun to write!! I think I’ll write another LGBTQ fairy tale retelling– I’ve always LOVED the story of Beauty and the Beast.

Raine O’Tierney and I have also come together to write a YA LGBTQ contemporary fiction, signed a contract with Harmony Ink Press, and will publish it… well, a very long time from now, but it deals with the beauty and value of silence, gaining control through losing control, and owning/embracing your life circumstances. I am a little bit in live with the character I wrote and his sister, who I based on models Lucky Blue Smith and his sister Pyper America Smith. Raine’s character is such a sweetheart, too. ❤

 

Also, two of my kids have graduated- one from high school and one from college. In this sense, I have been distracted in a very good way unlike what I talked about in my Facebook status this morning.

This is 2016 for Momma Mia… I hope to be around a lot more now.

How PERSONAL STYLE Helps Me to Embrace my BODY

My blog post of September 20, 2015 attracted a great deal of attention and I’ve been asked to write another post about body acceptance! In today’s post, I’ve extended my discussion of body love to include the HOW TO’s in terms of changing the way you view yourself. A big part of this includes the creation of a personal style that you love–from lingerie beneath your clothes to the coat your wear over them!

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One letter said,”Your thoughts on body confidence and being true to yourself is something we not only agree with, but try to cater to as well. With our plus size styles we create designs that not only promote confidence but accentuates a woman’s curves. With that being said, we’d love to get your further thoughts on the subject.”

In response to the requests I have written a post regarding the way in which I embrace myself as I am. Here are the tools I use to “SEND OFF SHAME” and to affirm the beauty of my body.

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Above: Mia in Adore Me Marcella Cami & Pajama set

EMBRACING MY PERSONAL STYLE

What plagued me was the underlying belief that no matter what I accomplished, or how kind and sweet and thoroughly wonderful I was, it was all disqualified by the fact that I was fat. Even before I gained weight in my thirties I lived in fear of fat. I had a boyfriend in my early twenties who said he was attracted to petite Asian women, and although I was not petite or Asian, I struggled to make my body fit this criteria. My mother, in her Hospice bed from which she couldn’t rise and in the final stages of lung cancer, asked me how my diet was going. It was one of our last conversations. And her focus on a thin body as representative of a beautiful and successful woman did not come out of nowhere, it was imposed on her by society, as well.

I have never been free of society’s shaming, and though I sincerely hope that the world is gradually changing in the direction of wider acceptance of people’s differences, there comes a point where I need to choose my own feelings about myself. About my beauty, about my self-worth, about my size.

It is time to stop the dieting, in favor of healthy and satisfying eating. It is time for chocolate to be “good” again. It is time for me to move my body because it is fun and makes me feel good. It is time to KNOW I am beautiful and worthwhile
just because I am.

BUT HOW?

It is easy to say “I’m going to accept myself the way I am.” It is easy to tell myself, “I am a big beautiful woman.” But how do I rise above the past fifty years of having had the image of the “perfect” size 2 or 4 or 6 body stamped into my consciousness as the only right way to be? How do I un-hear the slurs that have compared a large body to a house or a large sea animal? How do I do this? I cannot not care. I’m a woman who enjoys fashion and makeup and presenting myself to the world in a way that makes me feel attractive and beautiful.

So, in order to love and accept myself just exactly as I am, I have decided to embrace and love my own personal style. Style is important to me, and finding a style I like that works with my body is essential to my self acceptance.

I have accomplished this using several steps.

1)I have created several Pinterest Boards that I refer to often. One is called “Plus Size Beauty” where I pin pictures of mainly beautiful plus size women (but I have a number of beautiful plus size men, as well). I try to post a wide variety of women. I think that we (society) are highly influenced by what we see in advertisements, and if we never look at beautiful large women of various races, and are constantly shown only very thin pale women as representative of our standard of beauty, we will not begin to view any large body as a beautiful body.

I have another Pinterest Board called “Plus Size Fashion” where I pin plus size women wearing outfits I love. My favorite items of clothing are torn jeans and preppy shirts and leather boots, and lots of plaid flannel. Underneath my preppy/cowgirl exterior I like to wear sexy lace and silky camisoles as the contrast intrigues me.  Creating this board has helped me to focus in on what I want to wear and how I want to look and feel. And I have another Pinterest Board called “Self- Acceptance” on which I pin positive self-affirming statements about how I choose to see myself and the world.

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2) I turn the volume off or change the channel on ALL of the dieting commercials I see on television. When I was cleaning my closet, a weeklong event if you look at my September 20 blog post, I put the television on so I had something to listen to as I worked. I have to tell you, I heard more commercials from featuring Marie Osmond and Oprah Winfrey encouraging me to try out the amazing diet they support than any other type of commercial. I also became aware of what a huge business weight loss is, as many of the other commercials featured ways I could walk and climb away the pounds. So I can finally be happy.

I turn these off and tune them out.

3)I made a few rules to live by: Look for the beauty in all people. Appreciate the differences in people. Do not compare myself (physically or otherwise) to other women.

4)Associate with people who share my values—I find that I enjoy spending time with people who are not all about what they eat and which diet they are on and how often they work out, but who focus on they types of things that I find interesting and stimulating, like books and social issues.

5) Dress in what makes me feel sexy. And then go ahead and feel sexy. (AdoreMe.com’s beautiful lingerie helps with this!)

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6) I take note of plus size women in the news. Right now I am very excited by the beauty and style and intelligence of presidential candidate Bernie Sander’s wife, Jane.

7) I constantly challenge myself to find new online styles and new online stores that offer clothes for all sizes. This is a way I can enhance my personal style and embrace myself, as I become aware that the fashion world is starting to see larger women and create fashion to please us.

 

 

This list continues to grow every day as I find ways to support myself and to support other plus size people. I’d love to hear how YOU embrace yourself and your style!!!

 

Mia Kerick ❤

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